Having a family member in the ICU can be an overwhelming experience, with uncertainty and anxiety. Families and friends should give each other time and space for expressing emotions. In the ICU there is a private quiet room available. Remember you are not in this alone; there are many people who want to help. Whether it’s a close friend or family member, social worker, spiritual care advisor, doctor or nurse there are people you can talk to. Ask your nurse if you would like to speak to a member of the support team.

Exercise can help you cope with the stress of having a family member the ICU. Even a short walk outside the hospital in the fresh air can help you re-charge and regain focus.

Recovery from critical illness can be slow and it is important that you keep healthy to help you and your family member cope with this journey.

The ICU health care team will keep you up to date with changes in your family members condition. Sometimes you may not remember all that has been discussed. Please feel free to ask questions at any time. Sometimes it is good to take some time out and write down things you would like explained. Some families like to keep a diary documenting the significant events, thoughts and feeling or messages to help fill in the gaps.

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Family and friends of a patient in the ICU can become exhausted. Sleep is important so that you can think clearly.   Even if you have difficulty sleeping soundly, just lying down will provide you with rest. Remember the healthcare team are attentively caring for your family member even at night, so it is okay to leave to get some much needed rest. The health care team will monitor and care for your family member while you rest, and will keep you informed of any changes in your family member’s condition.

When your loved one is unwell, you may experience many emotions. If you have a spiritual and/or religious affiliation or community of support, it can be helpful to  reach out to people who can support you. Nursing Staff will offer the support of the hospital chaplaincy team and can facilitate visits from your own spiritual/religious minister.

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It is important to take time for meals. Even if you do not feel hungry at meal times, try to have something small and nutritious, like a piece of cheese with toast or soup. It is easy to become dehydrated in the hospital environment so remember to drink water.